Are You Ready For Love
Everyone is different as is everyone's personal situations. Just because you may have been 'unattached' for some time doesn't always mean you are ready for a 'full on' relationship.
Am I ready for romance and dating?
Ask yourself some questions. Who am I? What do I want? Do I want a romantic relationship?
Write your answers down, it clarifies things. Take your time, be thorough. An hour, day, week or month is small price to pay for true love.
Be honest.
Personality - What are your health practices, educational background, politics, entertainment preferences, professional and financial goals?
Do the same for your 'perfect partner'. What are the things they absolutely must or must not have - or do? If you absolutely hate smoking e.g. it is possibly a mistake to try and make yourself put up with it in a prospective partner. However, don't dismiss too many things as you may find you can get used to certain personality traits and habits.
If you have been honest about yourself you may find some things you will be able to get used to in others. To be fair, non of us is perfect. Gaining perspective in this way, you will make better choices.
If you feel however, that you have too many dislikes, you may decide you are not cut out to be in a long term relationship - not at this time anyway. It may be that it isn't you are not ready but it may just take a bit longer to find that 'perfect' someone. At least being honest with yourself will stop any heartache which follows.
Some ideas to get those bein juices flowing
Entertainment
Do you like: Music (what type), Theatre, Reading, Television, Art, Dancing or the Cinema?
Sports
Do you spend a lot of your time pursuing sporting activities such as: Football, Sailing, Horse riding, Hand gliding, Rugby, Swimming, Jogging, Tennis, Camping and Hiking for example? Would you want someone to share that activity with you?
What hobbies do you have that might affect a relationship for example: Dancing, Stamp Collecting, Singing, Pottery, Painting, travel. Chess, Sewing or Cooking
What character traits would you hate? Dishonesty, Laziness, Mean With Money, Anti Social, Domineering, Workaholic etc
Love doesn't just happen, we make it happen through the choices of partner we make.
Pounding hearts and full on hormones may start a relationship, but they don't keep fires burning.
When we put 'thought' into love, when we give ourselves completely, we increase our chances of having a successful long term loving relationship.
So, Do You Think You're Ready For Love?
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